Back in 2018, Australian educator and author Deanne Carson sparked a massive online debate after suggesting that parents should ask babies for “consent” before changing their diapers. During a television interview, Carson explained that while babies obviously cannot verbally respond, parents could still help build a culture of respect and bodily awareness from infancy by speaking to babies, making eye contact, explaining what they are doing, and paying attention to the child’s reactions and body language.
Her comments quickly spread across social media and triggered strong reactions worldwide. Many people mocked the idea, calling it unrealistic and impractical, while others misunderstood her comments as meaning babies should somehow decide whether or not a diaper change happens. Critics argued that parenting was becoming overly complicated, with some calling the suggestion absurd.
Supporters, however, said Carson’s point was being taken out of context. They explained that the idea was not about giving babies adult responsibilities or choices, but about teaching respect, communication, and bodily autonomy from a very young age. According to Carson, simple actions like talking to children respectfully and acknowledging their comfort can help create healthier attitudes around personal boundaries as they grow older.
After the backlash, Carson clarified her remarks and said she was encouraging respectful communication, not literal consent in the adult sense. Even years later, the topic continues to divide opinion online, with many parents debating whether this approach is thoughtful modern parenting or simply taking things too far.
